Another week. Another weekend. Time fairly flies. Here are five of my favorite finds for this week. Closing out January 2021.
1) Davy Jones Theme on Classical Guitar – The Davy Jones theme, from the 2006 film Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man’s Chest, was composed by the brilliant Hans Zimmer. Here, Nathan Mills renders this symphonic masterpiece into a beautiful classical guitar arrangement. Enjoy.
2) Asking Forgiveness vs. a Poor Apology – These days, when a person says “I’m sorry”, we often get the reply, “It’s not your fault”. Or, “it’s all good”. That, of course, is only when it really isn’t your fault…and it probably isn’t really all good. Sometimes I say, “I’m sorry” just as a condolence of sorts. “I’m sorry you weren’t able to have that night away.” “I’m sorry you’re sad.” “I’m sorry you didn’t get the job.” I didn’t cause the pain but feel sorry because you have pain.
Because the sentiment “I’m sorry” has become altered in its meaning, a real apology requires different vocabulary. Asking forgiveness is not the same as an apology. If I was harsh with you, I might say, “I was wrong to be harsh. Would you please forgive me?” A true apology asks a response. If the offended person can forgive then healing between the two can hopefully begin.
Just saying “I’m sorry” may very well be something the other person can agree with: “Yep, you are sorry for saying/doing that!” A sorry individual! Anyway, I don’t mean to make this about semantics, but word choice and resulting dialogue matters.
Author Frank Sonnenberg has written a short wisdom piece on apologies. He offers 11 common mistakes people make when they apologize.
A Sorry Apology Can Add Insult to Injury – Frank Sonnenberg
Photo Credit: Frank Sonnenberg
His counsel is something to consider as we teach little children how to put things right in their tustles with others. “Say you’re sorry”, mommy coaches the child…she/he is probably not sorry but often has to oblige the parent to kickstart play again. How could this coaching be done differently? Any thoughts on apology?
3) Zuby Music – Who would have ever thought a rapper, fitness coach, podcaster, and young British influencer would be one of my favorite go-to persons each day on social media?! Zuby is that one. I don’t know how long he will stay on Twitter, but I follow him there. Also on Instagram.
He might be considered conservative or even right-wing to the casual observer. What I appreciate about him is his clarity – how clear his thinking is and how articulate he is when talking about the issues of today. He wants to unite people rather than divide them. He is pragmatic, honest, and calls out behavior that can be harmful.
“Don’t let politics take away your humanity. Don’t let the fact that you agree or disagree with someone on various issues, don’t let that stop you from having sympathy for them, compassion…In general, people need to stop trying to dunk on people, insult people, dunking on people when they are…sick, going through dark times. It’s just despicable behavior. This is not me virtue-signaling. This is just me trying to encourage you to be a decent human being. Humanity over politics always!” – Zuby
4) Pornography Examined – Pornography is playing with fire. In fact, it will not only burn you but it will burn down your house and everyone in it. I remember (showing my age with this one) the first time I found pornographic magazines hidden in my childhood home. Not saying whose they were, but page after page of women in provocative poses burned images in my mind – my little girl mind that was never meant to have them. “Be careful little eyes what you see” was a song I learned as a child and taught our children as well (in English and then in Arabic, when we lived in North Africa). Pornography feeds the mind with what will not satisfy and will never be enough.
Spoken word artist Preston Perry and author, teacher Jackie Hill Perry attack the issue of pornography openly and honestly for us. They are Christian and deal with pornography as the sin it is, not as casual observers but as two people who have both struggled with it. Whether you are Christian or not, what they have to say can help.
Their Thirty Minutes With the Perrys podcast on pornography is linked here. Also carve out time to watch their more in-depth examination of pornography – what it does to us, what the battle is, and how we can deal with its destruction and move, with God’s help, toward healing. It is fire…and too prevalent not to take seriously.
Thirty Minutes With The Perrys: Pornography & Marriage: Part One
8 Sins You Commit Whenever You Look at Porn – Tim Challies
What if we intentionally determined to see all people as God sees them and to love them, truly love them, in word and deed?
See All the People – Discipleship Begins With Relationship
That’s it for this week. Hope you have a relaxing weekend with those you love. Snow is in the forecast here. Be safe out there. Thanks for stopping by here. It means a lot to me.
4 thoughts on “5 Friday Faves – Davy Jones Theme on Classical Guitar, Asking Forgiveness vs. a Poor Apology, Zuby Music, Pornography Examined, and #SeeAllThePeople”
Your “This is the Church” brought a smile to my face as my sisters and I used to keep just one finger inside as we said, “See all the Saturday people.” My Mom would be in the church on Sat. practicing to be organist on Sun. She played classical music into her 90s on the piano!
Thanks for sharing, Marge. That’s a funny variation on “Here’s the church”. How neat that your mom played the organ. I miss organ music in churches.
The apology thing is for sure something I need to be thinking of how to best train my kiddos – I definitely have fallen into the “say you’re sorry” to be released and continue life even though it isn’t the least bit genuine. ??
Greta Eskridge (maandpamodern on Instagram) is one I’ve found that has great resources on protecting your children from pornography – teaching them what it is in age appropriate ways and how to avoid it and how to deal with it if you do encounter it. It is sad how pervasive it is, and the ease of accessibility now is ?.
Thanks for commenting, Christie. I follow Greta Eskridge now. Appreciate your referring her to me. As for the whole apology thing, it does require a fair amount of thought, training (ourselves and our children), and perseverance. True repentance, remorse, and owning personal responsibility (3 R’s – that could preach) are needed to make asking forgiveness a valuable part of resolving conflict. Thanks again for giving me (us) the opportunity of thinking on this some more.