{"id":11357,"date":"2016-09-30T12:59:31","date_gmt":"2016-09-30T16:59:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=11357"},"modified":"2022-05-24T17:23:24","modified_gmt":"2022-05-24T21:23:24","slug":"5-friday-faves-writing-bumper-stickers-lawn-signs-old-men-grooving-friends-who-wound-and-a-clean-house","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=11357","title":{"rendered":"5 Friday Faves &#8211; Writing, Bumper Stickers &#038; Lawn Signs, Old Men Grooving, Friends Who Wound, and a Clean House"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11080\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg\" alt=\"Blog - Friday Faves 006 (2)\" width=\"3996\" height=\"2540\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg 3996w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-300x191.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-768x488.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-1024x651.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 3996px) 100vw, 3996px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Friday again. Nice. This week has been an easy one &#8211; lighter work load, early morning walks with neighbors, visits with old friends, and marveling at sweet grand-babies. Life on the side of simple. There was one significant dip in our week when my dad had a <a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=11375\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">bad night<\/a>, but he has\u00a0improved remarkably\u00a0since then. Each day is different. Rejoicing in the good days.<\/p>\n<p>Here are my favorite finds from this week. Please share any of yours in Comments below.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1) Writing<\/strong> &#8211; Always an outlet for me. I&#8217;ve written journals from childhood (called them\u00a0diaries in those days). <a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Writing-lithub.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11450\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Writing-lithub.jpg\" alt=\"blog-writing-lithub\" width=\"1200\" height=\"462\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Writing-lithub.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Writing-lithub-300x116.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Writing-lithub-768x296.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Writing-lithub-1024x394.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"http:\/\/lithub.com\/how-to-be-a-writer-10-tips-from-rebecca-solnit\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">LitHub<\/a><\/p>\n<p>All my life, people who were privy to some of my writing, have told me, &#8220;You should write a book!&#8221; I don&#8217;t have the discipline, message,&#8230;or passion, maybe, to write a book&#8230;yet. One day. I started this blog for my children, during a time I was frightened that my memory was fading. So far, it seems to be the forgetfulness of my aging (not diseased) brain. Still, blog writing continues to be a joy&#8230;almost a mission. When life keeps me from writing, as in the last couple of weeks, I miss it&#8230;and then it&#8217;s hard to get back into the habit.\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/rebeccasolnit.net\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Rebecca Solnit<\/a> posted recently suggesting <a href=\"http:\/\/lithub.com\/how-to-be-a-writer-10-tips-from-rebecca-solnit\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">10 Tips on How to Be a Writer<\/a>. Her article is beautiful writing in itself. Here are two\u00a0of her most encouraging observations:<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;It\u2019s not only time that gets the kid onward to more sophistication and skill, it\u2019s effort and practice. Write bad stuff because the road to good writing is made out of words and not all of them are well-arranged words.&#8221; &#8211; <\/em>Rebecca Solnit<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;It starts with passion even before it starts with words. You want to read people who are wise, deep, wild, kind, committed, insightful, attentive; you want to be those people.&#8221; &#8211; <\/em>Rebecca Solnit<\/p>\n<p><strong>2) Bumper Stickers &amp; Lawn Signs &#8211; <\/strong>It&#8217;s a big year here in the US. In just a few days, we will, together, vote to elect the next Commander and Chief of our country. Usually by this time, lawns and cars are covered with signs and stickers that declare our preferences (or decry the prospect of &#8220;the other guy&#8221; becoming President). <a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Lawn-Signs-and-Bumper-Stickers.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11443\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Lawn-Signs-and-Bumper-Stickers.jpg\" alt=\"blog-lawn-signs-and-bumper-stickers\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Lawn-Signs-and-Bumper-Stickers.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Lawn-Signs-and-Bumper-Stickers-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Lawn-Signs-and-Bumper-Stickers-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Lawn-Signs-and-Bumper-Stickers-1024x576.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=DfGDVQ444Aw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">YouTube<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Bumper stickers abound broadcasting our various allegiances, in general. [Dave and I are not a bumper sticker people, but\u00a0various ones\u00a0make for fascinating distractions while stopped at traffic lights. Quite telling of the mixed bag of cultural values we have.]<a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-cafepress.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11441\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-cafepress.jpg\" alt=\"blog-bumper-stickers-cafepress\" width=\"800\" height=\"260\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-cafepress.jpg 800w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-cafepress-300x98.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-cafepress-768x250.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cafepress.com\/+bumper-stickers\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Cafepress<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Oddly this year, where we live,\u00a0political loyalties are less obvious. Only occasional bumper stickers. Even fewer lawn signs. Not that they are <a href=\"http:\/\/www.theatlantic.com\/national\/archive\/2012\/11\/the-popularity-and-irrelevance-of-our-lawn-sign-wars\/264488\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relevant<\/a> to election outcomes. Still, they were interesting predictors of where neighbors, co-workers, and random strangers stood politically on issues and candidates.<\/p>\n<p>I wonder why there are so few this year. Are we\u00a0less sure or even despairing at our\u00a0options? Is it fear of displaying our colors? What do you think (without going all political in the comments)?<\/p>\n<p>A postscript to this is the possibility that\u00a0we\u00a0now live\u00a0in an age where &#8220;putting it all out there&#8221; on our vehicles, or in our yards, is not wisdom. Again, thoughts?<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-pjmedia.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11439\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-pjmedia.jpg\" alt=\"blog-bumper-stickers-pjmedia\" width=\"960\" height=\"742\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-pjmedia.jpg 960w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-pjmedia-300x232.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Blog-Bumper-Stickers-pjmedia-768x594.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/pjmedia.com\/parenting\/2015\/10\/7\/three-harmless-bumper-stickers-that-police-say-can-destroy-your-family\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">PJMedia<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>3) Old Men Grooving &#8211; <\/strong>On a lighter note, I discovered this British dance group, of 40-60-somethings, who performed on<a href=\"http:\/\/www.itv.com\/britainsgottalent\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> Britain&#8217;s Got Talent\u00a0<\/a>. They call themselves <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Old_Men_Grooving\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Old Men Grooving<\/a>, and you will get a sweet chuckle watching them dance together. Very impressive really. Reminds me of when I took a tap class, for the first time, as an adult. Never too late to dance! Find <strong>Old Men Grooving<\/strong> on YouTube.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Old Men Grooving bust a move, and maybe their backs! | Britain&#039;s Got Talent 2015\" width=\"474\" height=\"267\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ggswWVZ8zKA?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><strong>4) Friends Who Wound<\/strong> &#8211; OK, this isn&#8217;t for everyone. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.desiringgod.org\/articles\/find-a-friend-to-wound-you?utm_medium=feed&amp;utm_source=feedpress.me&amp;utm_campaign=Feed%3A+dg-articles#modal-882-sm5t3gso\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Greg Morse<\/a> recently wrote a piece for <a href=\"http:\/\/www.desiringgod.org\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Desiring God<\/em><\/a> on <a href=\"http:\/\/www.desiringgod.org\/articles\/find-a-friend-to-wound-you?utm_medium=feed&amp;utm_source=feedpress.me&amp;utm_campaign=Feed%3A+dg-articles\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">finding a friend\u00a0to wound you<\/a>. What seems counter-intuitive is actually something I welcome&#8230;and it&#8217;s not because I&#8217;m a glutton for punishment.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/BLog-friends.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11458\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/BLog-friends.png\" alt=\"blog-friends\" width=\"268\" height=\"188\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/bpb.opendns.com\/a\/www.someecards.com\/usercards\/viewcard\/if-i-learned-anything-from-watching-game-of-thrones-its-that-the-fastest-way-to-a-mans-heartis-directly-through-a-gaping-axe-wound-in-his-chest-0478d\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">SomeEcards<\/a><\/p>\n<p>We see on social media, and say ourselves sometimes, that it&#8217;s right to just get rid of negative people, walk away from punishers or diminishers, and hang with people who only affirm us. This article talks about friends who love us enough to say the hard thing. I appreciate people who love me and\u00a0take the risk to point out the huge potholes in my path or who reach into my life and help\u00a0hoist me out of a ditch of my own poor choices. Here&#8217;s a quote from Morse&#8217;s article (he&#8217;s speaking to Christ-followers):<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;The world cares nothing for our eternal good. Ungodly friends cheer us on toward destruction. They bequeath the kiss of flattery \u2014 the Dementor\u2019s kiss. They coddle our egos, telling us what we want to hear, not what we need to hear. Even the most genuine and moral among them sets sail away from God. Thus we need a crew of Christian companions \u2014 a body \u2014 to keep us from shipwreck. Finishing the race is not an individual endeavor, and eternity is at stake.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Praise God then for the faithful wounds of true friends who protect us from ultimate injury. They tell us plainly, \u201cYou\u2019re flirting with destruction!\u201d &#8230;Friends who ask us hard questions, who crush the whispering lizard on our shoulder, who are for our eternal soul above our momentary feelings \u2014 these are true friends.&#8221;\u00a0\u00a0 &#8211; <\/em>Greg Morse<\/p>\n<p>There is a delicate balance here&#8230;and relationship matters. We&#8217;ve too often been put off balance by words unfitly spoken. What is your experience of friends who wound in a good way? For me, the best experiences I&#8217;ve had with this have turned into crossroads in life&#8230;isolated incidents where a friend helped me step back from a habit, a person, a life choice that could have destroyed me&#8230;and step toward a better way. Very thankful for the courage and love of\u00a0such friends.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/BLog-Best-Friends-Wounds.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11456\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/BLog-Best-Friends-Wounds.jpg\" alt=\"blog-best-friends-wounds\" width=\"450\" height=\"375\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/BLog-Best-Friends-Wounds.jpg 450w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/BLog-Best-Friends-Wounds-300x250.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 450px) 100vw, 450px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dgreetings.com\/friendship\/quote.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Dgreetings<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>5) A Clean House &#8211; <\/strong>Who doesn&#8217;t like a clean house? When our first child was born, my mom-in-law and her sister came to help me for a week. They were wonderful! One day, while I was sitting all pampered with Baby Girl in my lap, Aunt Nancy asked me what I used to clean the baseboards. Baseboards? First of all, I wasn&#8217;t sure what baseboards were, and secondly, I was positive I didn&#8217;t clean them. Years later we lived in North Africa and had house helpers all through our time there- those years of my school-aged children. A time when the kids thought that she was their helper rather than mine?!<\/p>\n<p>What a blessing to have the so-daily dust of the Sahara Desert washed away by someone&#8230;else! Now back in the US, I am faced with the dust of Richmond, Virginia&#8230;Alas. There are endless numbers of articles out there on how to clean house, and I&#8217;ve read several. Reading does not necessarily lead to cleaning unfortunately.<a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/blog-messy-mom-clean-house.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11460\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/blog-messy-mom-clean-house.jpg\" alt=\"blog-messy-mom-clean-house\" width=\"600\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/blog-messy-mom-clean-house.jpg 600w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/blog-messy-mom-clean-house-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/blog-messy-mom-clean-house-300x300.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"http:\/\/blog-messy-mom-clean-house\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Quadcity<\/a><\/p>\n<p>The article by Valerie Fraser Luesse entitled <a href=\"http:\/\/www.southernliving.com\/home-garden\/organization\/clean-house-southern-mama\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Do You Clean Like Mama?<\/em><\/a>\u00a0is my most recent helpful, funny,\u00a0and non-judgmental read on this subject. It gives me hope again that if I keep at it, one day the house might be clean&#8230;for a glorious moment or two, at least.<\/p>\n<p>Those are my faves&#8230;although I could also go on and on about the goodness of God, babies, and the sweet arrival of Fall&#8230;but those we&#8217;ll leave to another day. Have a restful and restorative weekend out there.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Friday again. Nice. This week has been an easy one &#8211; lighter work load, early morning walks with neighbors, visits with old friends, and marveling at sweet grand-babies. Life on the side of simple. There was one significant dip in our week when my dad had a bad night, but he has\u00a0improved remarkably\u00a0since then. Each &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=11357\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">5 Friday Faves &#8211; Writing, Bumper Stickers &#038; Lawn Signs, Old Men Grooving, Friends Who Wound, and a Clean House<\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_s2mail":"yes","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[2763,3396,1705,1618,1820,1567,2057,1801,1265,50,3394,109,317,293,2611,1566,1002,55,735,1453,991],"tags":[3778,3775,3779,1772,3491,776,1802,239,615,3777,3780,3776,3782,3783,1924,3774,3781,3773,4],"class_list":["post-11357","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-aging","category-america","category-conversations","category-courage","category-creativity","category-decluttering","category-fall","category-friday-faves","category-friends","category-god","category-habits","category-home-2","category-lessons-learned","category-life-skills","category-love-your-neighbor","category-stuff-management","category-transformational","category-transitions","category-words","category-work","category-writing","tag-babies","tag-bumper-stickers","tag-clean-house","tag-conversations","tag-election-year","tag-fall","tag-friday-faves","tag-friends","tag-goodness-of-god","tag-greg-morse","tag-house-keeping","tag-lawn-signs","tag-mama","tag-messy-mom","tag-politics","tag-rebecca-solnit","tag-valerie-fraser-luesse","tag-writer","tag-writing"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pauPAB-2Xb","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11357","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=11357"}],"version-history":[{"count":32,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11357\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30329,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11357\/revisions\/30329"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=11357"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=11357"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=11357"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}