{"id":15939,"date":"2017-09-22T22:24:46","date_gmt":"2017-09-23T02:24:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=15939"},"modified":"2023-09-25T06:38:48","modified_gmt":"2023-09-25T10:38:48","slug":"5-friday-faves-braveheart-and-classical-guitar-inheriting-our-parents-traits-and-trauma-destination-addiction-confederate-monuments-and-lunch-with-seniors","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=15939","title":{"rendered":"5 Friday Faves &#8211; Braveheart and Classical Guitar, Inheriting Our Parents&#8217; Traits and Trauma, Destination Addiction, Confederate Monuments, and Lunch with Seniors"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-14251\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"3996\" height=\"2540\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg 3996w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-300x191.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-768x488.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-1024x651.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 3996px) 100vw, 3996px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Friday! Yes&#8230;the weekend is upon us and the start of Fall. Hope you&#8217;ve had a week full of grace. What a season of hurricanes and earthquakes and wars and rumors of war! We hold onto God and each other, and perspective comes much more readily.<\/p>\n<p>Here are five of my favorite discoveries this week, as well as a few bonuses at the end. Hope you&#8217;re encouraged and positively emboldened in the reading below.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1) Braveheart and Classical Guitar <\/strong>&#8211; The 1995 <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Mel_Gibson\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Mel Gibson<\/a> film <em><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Braveheart\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Braveheart<\/a><\/em> moved the hearts of all who saw it. <em>Braveheart<\/em> was an epic telling of Scotland&#8217;s fight for freedom from England into the 13th century. Historical accuracy wasn&#8217;t a goal of the filmmakers, but grandeur of the clashing battlefronts was riveting.I couldn&#8217;t watch every frame because of the medieval war violence and the grisly execution of <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/William_Wallace\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">William Wallace<\/a> (played by Gibson). <a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/BLog-Braveheart-Fanpop.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-16026\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/BLog-Braveheart-Fanpop.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/BLog-Braveheart-Fanpop.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/BLog-Braveheart-Fanpop-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/BLog-Braveheart-Fanpop-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/BLog-Braveheart-Fanpop-1024x576.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fanpop.com\/clubs\/braveheart\/images\/32189752\/title\/wallpaper-wallpaper\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Fanpop<\/a><\/p>\n<p>My family is Scottish with both Wallace and <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Robert_the_Bruce\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Bruce<\/a> in our family tree. When son Nathan of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/beyondtheguitar\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Beyond the Guitar<\/a> arranged a medley of the beautiful <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/James_Horner\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">James Horner<\/a> soundtrack, I told him he should wear a kilt for the video&#8230; No kilt, but gorgeous themes bringing back the intense emotion of the film. Made me want to see <em>Braveheart<\/em> all over again. <a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9471.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-16024\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9471.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1600\" height=\"900\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9471.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9471-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9471-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9471-1024x576.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=gswTZDrXPvM\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">YouTube, Beyond the Guitar<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=gswTZDrXPvM\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">YouTube video<\/a> of Beyond the Guitar&#8217;s<em> Braveheart<\/em>. Lovely.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"BRAVEHEART MEETS CLASSICAL GUITAR\" width=\"474\" height=\"267\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gswTZDrXPvM?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><strong>2) Inheriting Our Parents&#8217; Traits and Trauma<\/strong> &#8211; My whole life people have told me, &#8220;You look just like your mother.&#8221; That was fine by me because I loved her deeply and thought she was beautiful.<a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Mom-and-Debbie-Birthday.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-16016\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Mom-and-Debbie-Birthday.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"915\" height=\"588\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Mom-and-Debbie-Birthday.jpg 915w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Mom-and-Debbie-Birthday-300x193.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Mom-and-Debbie-Birthday-768x494.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 915px) 100vw, 915px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>As I&#8217;ve grown older, it&#8217;s not just looks but actions that also are a part of my link with my mom. Even though she is no longer with us, I will do things or react in certain ways that remind me of Mom.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/ww2.kqed.org\/news\/author\/adembosky\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">April Dembosky<\/a> has written a piece on <a href=\"https:\/\/traumaandhealing.stanford.edu\/readinglist\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">intergenerational transfer of trauma. <\/a>It is entitled <a href=\"https:\/\/ww2.kqed.org\/news\/2017\/09\/13\/just-like-my-mother-how-we-inherit-our-parents-traits-and-tragedies\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Just Like Mother: How We Inherit Our Parents&#8217; Traits and Tragedies<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Dembosky writes about a Vietnamese family immigrating to the US after enduring war trauma. She described vividly how the struggles a parent endures can be transferred to the children in the ways they also react to adverse situations and their coping mechanisms.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=12745\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Love Your Neighbors &#8211; The Resilience Movie and Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)<\/em> &#8211; Deb Mills Writer<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Understanding the possibility of intergenerational transfer of trauma is not to make victims of a future generation. Understanding allows us to recognize if we have vulnerability and to set in place healthy barriers against the impact of our parents&#8217; trauma.<\/p>\n<p>My mom grew up with an alcoholic father who vented his frustrations about life on his wife and children. Mom stood against his abuse of her own mother and brothers. Her fighter responses were tempered as an adult when she became a believer (follower of Christ). Still that quickness to take offense and wariness of mean-spiritedness were reactions she had to fight. I see that also in myself.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.reachoutrecovery.com\/the-recovery-daily\/family\/children-of-alcoholics-and-addicts-have-ptsd-2\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Children of Alcoholics and Addicts Have PTSD<\/em> &#8211; Leslie Glass<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>3) Destination Addiction <\/strong>&#8211; No it&#8217;s not about our next vacation, but destination addiction is very much about whether or not we can find contentment in our day-to-day life. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.robertholden.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Robert Holden<\/a>, a British psychologist, writes and speaks about the pursuit of happiness. <a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/2015-October-Khadija-Blog-Virginia-Beach-Dave-Food-276-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-16021\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/2015-October-Khadija-Blog-Virginia-Beach-Dave-Food-276-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"4158\" height=\"3118\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/2015-October-Khadija-Blog-Virginia-Beach-Dave-Food-276-1.jpg 4158w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/2015-October-Khadija-Blog-Virginia-Beach-Dave-Food-276-1-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/2015-October-Khadija-Blog-Virginia-Beach-Dave-Food-276-1-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/2015-October-Khadija-Blog-Virginia-Beach-Dave-Food-276-1-1024x768.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 4158px) 100vw, 4158px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>To be honest, I&#8217;m not taken with all Holden says about happiness or contentment, but destination addiction is something to avoid, for sure. When we long for that next thing&#8230;whether it is the vacation, or next job, or next house, or even next relationship&#8230;we cease to live in the present. This addiction, like all others, is never satisfied.<a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Destination-Addiction-Robert-Holden.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-15940\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Destination-Addiction-Robert-Holden.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"850\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Destination-Addiction-Robert-Holden.jpg 850w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Destination-Addiction-Robert-Holden-300x141.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Destination-Addiction-Robert-Holden-768x361.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 850px) 100vw, 850px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.azquotes.com\/picture-quotes\/quote-beware-of-destination-addiction-a-preoccupation-with-the-idea-that-happiness-is-in-the-robert-holden-81-66-29.jpg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">AZ Quotes<\/a><\/p>\n<p>If this is a struggle for you, and it sure has been for me at various seasons of my life, recognize it and deal with it. Sure, we can look forward to the &#8220;something new&#8217;s&#8221; in our life, but not to the exclusion of what is real and valuable and not-to-be-missed right now.<\/p>\n<p>The links below are quick reads and excellent helps.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.elementsbehavioralhealth.com\/addiction\/destination-addiction\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Destination Addiction<\/em> &#8211; Edie Weinstein<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/gabrielle-treanor\/do-you-have-destination-a_b_8268420.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Do You Have Destination Addiction?<\/em> &#8211; Gabrielle Treanor<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/blog\/in-excess\/201607\/the-search-happiness\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>The Search for Happiness &#8211; a Brief Look at &#8216;Destination Addiction&#8217;<\/em> &#8211; Mark D. Griffiths<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>4) Confederate Monuments &#8211; <\/strong>Richmond, Virginia is a city steeped in American Civil War history&#8230;a history that has come sharply under fire recently. There has been a clarion call to take down the monuments to the Confederacy. Whether those monuments come down or not in the days ahead, the conversation spurred across cultural lines is crucial. The voices of those most marginalized by present-day racism must be heard. Five Richmond young people visited Monument Ave. recently, and their response might surprise you.<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Monuments-Richmond-CYcling-Corps-Facebook.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-16035\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Monuments-Richmond-CYcling-Corps-Facebook.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"960\" height=\"719\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Monuments-Richmond-CYcling-Corps-Facebook.jpg 960w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Monuments-Richmond-CYcling-Corps-Facebook-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Blog-Monuments-Richmond-CYcling-Corps-Facebook-768x575.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/a><\/strong>Photo Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/richmondcyclingcorps\/photos\/a.215617838469781.57209.161882513843314\/1675380969160120\/?type=3&amp;theater\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Richmond Cycling Corps, Facebook<\/a><strong><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Reporter<a href=\"http:\/\/wric.com\/author\/mchaney8news\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> Matthew Chaney<\/a>&#8216;s <a href=\"http:\/\/wric.com\/2017\/09\/16\/richmond-teens-offer-alternative-take-on-confederate-monuments\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">post<\/a> revisted a Facebook post by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/richmondcyclingcorps\/photos\/a.215617838469781.57209.161882513843314\/1675380969160120\/?type=3&amp;theater\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Richmond Cycling Corps<\/a>. Daquan, one of the five teenagers, wrote brilliantly their collective response on seeing the statues of Confederate generals displayed on Monument Ave.<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cEverybody\u2019s pointing blame at Monument Avenue and the statues that reside there, but those statues never did anything to me or people that I care about,\u201d<\/em> he wrote. <em>\u201cThe only thing that ever harmed people in low-income areas is the violence that resides there.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cInstead of using money to knock down statues that most people in low-income areas never even seen, how about using that money to improve schools, fix up the community that we see every day, or why not protest in our neighborhoods where we see violence and hate the most.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Read <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/richmondcyclingcorps\/photos\/a.215617838469781.57209.161882513843314\/1675380969160120\/?type=3&amp;theater\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">the entire post<\/a> as Daquan raises the more crucial issues of violence, hunger, poor schooling, and hopelessness they see every day in their Richmond community.<\/p>\n<p>The monuments may still come down in the attempt to deal with the racism in this city. What is needed more is this 17y\/o man&#8217;s counsel.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5) Lunch with Seniors &#8211; <\/strong>This is not about taking high school or college students to lunch. That would be much appreciated, I&#8217;m sure&#8230;but this is about going to lunch with those older ones in our lives. It&#8217;s what neighbor friends of ours did earlier this week, taking a 91 y\/o widower out to lunch at his favorite restaurant.<a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9216.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-16043\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9216.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"3264\" height=\"2448\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9216.jpg 3264w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9216-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9216-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/IMG_9216-1024x768.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 3264px) 100vw, 3264px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Seminary professor <a href=\"http:\/\/www.chucklawless.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Chuck Lawless<\/a> gives <a href=\"http:\/\/chucklawless.com\/2017\/09\/12-reasons-to-have-lunch-with-a-senior-adult-or-a-bunch-of-them\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>12 Reasons to Have Lunch With a Senior Citizen or a Bunch of Them<\/em><\/a>. Some of the reasons include how much we can learn from those more experienced than us, how funny they can be, how they also need encouragement, and how they will sometimes pray for us.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t take much sorting out to see the value in such an interruption to our day. Thankfully those older than us also understand the value of such times together&#8230;for them and for us. All we have to do is make that phone call&#8230;stepping out of the comfort zone of texting. So worth it.<a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Blog-Birthday-Week-Dad-and-Pastor-Dave.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-7648\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Blog-Birthday-Week-Dad-and-Pastor-Dave.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"4320\" height=\"3240\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Blog-Birthday-Week-Dad-and-Pastor-Dave.jpg 4320w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Blog-Birthday-Week-Dad-and-Pastor-Dave-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Blog-Birthday-Week-Dad-and-Pastor-Dave-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Blog-Birthday-Week-Dad-and-Pastor-Dave-1024x768.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 4320px) 100vw, 4320px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s my five. How about you? Please share in the Comments something you&#8217;ve gleaned from this week. Have a weekend that replenishes your soul. Be kind to yourself and those around you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Friday! Yes&#8230;the weekend is upon us and the start of Fall. Hope you&#8217;ve had a week full of grace. What a season of hurricanes and earthquakes and wars and rumors of war! We hold onto God and each other, and perspective comes much more readily. Here are five of my favorite discoveries this week, as &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=15939\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">5 Friday Faves &#8211; Braveheart and Classical Guitar, Inheriting Our Parents&#8217; Traits and Trauma, Destination Addiction, Confederate Monuments, and Lunch with Seniors<\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_s2mail":"yes","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1264,2763,926,2986,690,2126,1241,1705,1618,1148,4343,147,249,1801,50,903,1435,2547,2776,33,317,932,2611,747,432,870,887,4160,610,4159,233],"tags":[4156,4157,5191,2548,5189,5193,5192,1865,573,5074,5203,5195,5198,1802,5199,5197,5190,5194,5204,5200,5201,5205,1136,98,2495,1891,5202,5196,3813,2534],"class_list":["post-15939","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-addictions","category-aging","category-attending-or-focus","category-attitude","category-babies-children","category-community","category-contentment","category-conversations","category-courage","category-critical-thinking","category-daughters-and-sons","category-family-2","category-food-drink","category-friday-faves","category-god","category-grace","category-growing-up","category-guitar","category-hospitality","category-inspired","category-lessons-learned","category-loneliness","category-love-your-neighbor","category-mom-and-dad","category-music","category-neighbors","category-remembering","category-resilience","category-thanksgiving-or-gratefulness","category-trauma","category-vacations","tag-aces","tag-adverse-childhood-experiences","tag-april-dembosky","tag-beyond-the-guitar","tag-braveheart","tag-children-of-addicts","tag-children-of-alcoholics","tag-chuck-lawless","tag-classical-guitar","tag-confederate-monuments","tag-daquan","tag-destination-addiction","tag-edie-weinstein","tag-friday-faves","tag-gabrielle-treanor","tag-happiness-project","tag-intergenerational-transfer-of-trauma","tag-leslie-glass","tag-lunch","tag-mark-d-griffiths","tag-matthew-chaney","tag-monument-ave","tag-nathan-mills","tag-parents","tag-ptsd","tag-richmond","tag-richmond-cycling-corps","tag-robert-holden","tag-senior-citizens","tag-trauma"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pauPAB-495","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15939","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15939"}],"version-history":[{"count":32,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15939\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":32312,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15939\/revisions\/32312"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15939"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15939"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15939"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}