{"id":20099,"date":"2018-09-14T15:22:13","date_gmt":"2018-09-14T19:22:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=20099"},"modified":"2018-09-14T16:56:35","modified_gmt":"2018-09-14T20:56:35","slug":"5-friday-faves-first-responders-fall-tv-getting-older-a-narcissist-culture-and-visual-aids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=20099","title":{"rendered":"5 Friday Faves &#8211; First Responders, Fall TV, Getting Older, a Narcissist Culture, and Visual Aids"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-14251\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"3996\" height=\"2540\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2.jpg 3996w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-300x191.jpg 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-768x488.jpg 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/Blog-Friday-Faves-006-2-1024x651.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 3996px) 100vw, 3996px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>As I write it&#8217;s raining&#8230; This Friday &#8211; lots of country music and YouTube videos&#8230;and a grateful heart. Oh&#8230;and just as I was about to publish, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.patreon.com\/beyondtheguitar\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Nathan Mills<\/a>&#8216; arrangement of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.johnpaesano.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">John Paesano<\/a>&#8216;s <em>Spiderman<\/em> theme (for the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.playstation.com\/en-us\/explore\/ps4-pro\/systems\/limited-edition-marvels-spider-man-ps4-pro-bundle\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">PS4 game<\/a> of the same name) just got posted. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=KkTxMOYl9L0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Enjoy<\/a>.<a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Nathan-Spiderman-Sep-2018.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-20185\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Nathan-Spiderman-Sep-2018.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1280\" height=\"720\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Nathan-Spiderman-Sep-2018.png 1280w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Nathan-Spiderman-Sep-2018-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Nathan-Spiderman-Sep-2018-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Nathan-Spiderman-Sep-2018-1024x576.png 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1280px) 100vw, 1280px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>1) First Responders &#8211; <\/strong>This has been quite a week &#8211; between the observance of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.911memorial.org\/anniversary\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">17th anniversary of the 9\/11 attacks<\/a> and the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/world\/live\/2018\/sep\/13\/florence-hurricane-latest-live-news-updates-weather-path-storm-surge-north-carolina\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Hurricane Florence<\/a> pounding away in the Carolinas right now.<\/p>\n<p>We have listened to news reports, documentaries, and one another talk about these two occurrences all week. All I want to say is:<\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;Thank you, all you who go in as others are running out. All of you, first responders, who seek to protect and care for us. Thank you. May God keep you safe.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-First-Responders-Health-mil.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-20184\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-First-Responders-Health-mil.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"720\" height=\"428\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-First-Responders-Health-mil.jpeg 720w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-First-Responders-Health-mil-300x178.jpeg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 720px) 100vw, 720px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/health.mil\/News\/Articles\/2016\/09\/11\/A-communicators-story-on-the-morning-of-September-11-2001\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Health.mil<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>2) Fall TV Shows &#8211; <\/strong>Nope, not talking NFL football here. Nor is this heralding the many Fall-themed <a href=\"https:\/\/www.countryliving.com\/life\/entertainment\/a22788775\/hallmark-channel-fall-harvest-movies-2018\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Hallmark movies<\/a> on the horizon. This fave marks the building excitement for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.metacritic.com\/feature\/tv-premiere-dates\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">premier weeks<\/a> for our favorite TV shows. You tell me your favorites, I&#8217;ll tell you mine. Fall is maybe my favorite seasons&#8230;this being one reason among many.<\/p>\n<div class=\"fb-video\" data-allowfullscreen=\"true\" data-href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/itisasouthernthing\/videos\/1647443635306251\/\" style=\"background-color: #fff; display: inline-block;\"><\/div>\n<p>One TV show not coming back yet is <em><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Stranger_Things\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Stranger Things<\/a>.<\/em> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=8qJcugbLAAE\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">This<\/a> might help:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"STRANGER THINGS MEETS CLASSICAL GUITAR\" width=\"474\" height=\"267\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/8qJcugbLAAE?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><strong>3) Getting Older<\/strong> &#8211; Country artist (and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.alanjackson.com\/news.html?n_id=4987\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Songwriters Hall of Famer<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.alanjackson.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Alan Jackson\u00a0<\/a>turns 60 this month. That&#8217;s still real young, but his song <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=o9eOvBSgR2w\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>The Older I Get<\/em><\/a> rings true to the experience of&#8230;getting older. The lyrics of this poignant country song ring true&#8230;they can speak for themselves.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"474\" height=\"267\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/o9eOvBSgR2w?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p><em>The older I get<\/em><br \/>\n<em>The more I think<\/em><br \/>\n<em>You only get a minute, better live while you\u2019re in it<\/em><br \/>\n<em>&#8216;Cause it\u2019s gone in a blink<\/em><br \/>\n<em>And the older I get<\/em><br \/>\n<em>The truer it is<\/em><br \/>\n<em>It\u2019s the people you love, not the money and stuff<\/em><br \/>\n<em>That makes you rich<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>And if they found a fountain of youth<\/em><br \/>\n<em>I wouldn\u2019t drink a drop and that\u2019s the truth<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Funny how it feels I\u2019m just getting to my best years yet<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>The older I get<\/em><br \/>\n<em>The fewer friends I have<\/em><br \/>\n<em>But you don\u2019t need a lot when the ones that you got<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Have always got your back<\/em><br \/>\n<em>And the older I get<\/em><br \/>\n<em>The better I am<\/em><br \/>\n<em>At knowing when to give<\/em><br \/>\n<em>And when to just not give a damn<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>And if they found a fountain of youth<\/em><br \/>\n<em>I wouldn\u2019t drink a drop and that\u2019s the truth<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Funny how it feels I\u2019m just getting to my best years yet<\/em><br \/>\n<em>The older I get<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>And I don\u2019t mind all the lines<\/em><br \/>\n<em>From all the times I\u2019ve laughed and cried<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Souvenirs and little signs of the life I\u2019ve lived<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>The older I get<\/em><br \/>\n<em>The longer I pray<\/em><br \/>\n<em>I don\u2019t know why, I guess that I<\/em><br \/>\n<em>Got more to say<\/em><br \/>\n<em>And the older I get<\/em><br \/>\n<em>The more thankful I feel<\/em><br \/>\n<em>For the life I\u2019ve had, and all the life I\u2019m living still*<\/em><\/p>\n<p>*<a href=\"http:\/\/www.songfacts.com\/detail.php?lyrics=43900\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Lyrics to<em> The Older I Get &#8211;<\/em>Songwriters: Adam Wright, Hailey Whitters and Sarah Allison Turner<\/a><em><br \/>\n<\/em><\/p>\n<p>[Along with getting older with its sweet upside of grandchildren and finding clarity and contentment&#8230;there is the sadder side of losing people we love. That happened for Alan Jackson this week with the <a href=\"https:\/\/countryfancast.com\/alan-jacksons-son-in-law\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">unexpected death<\/a> of his oldest daughter Mattie&#8217;s husband, Ben Selecman&#8230;married less than a year. Prayers for this family.]<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/considerthisradioshow.com\/age-maturity\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Age of Maturity &#8211; Consider This Radio Show<\/em> &#8211; Annette Petrick<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>4) A Narcissist Culture &#8211; <\/strong>What happened to a once civil society? Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/entry\/ruth-bader-ginsburg-senate-supreme-court-hearings_us_5b999d0fe4b0162f4733cf91\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">spoke<\/a> this week on the divisive and partisan Senate confirmation hearings of recent years. She reflected on her own hearing and that of her <a href=\"https:\/\/www.npr.org\/2016\/02\/15\/466848775\/scalia-ginsburg-opera-commemorates-sparring-supreme-court-friendship\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">good friend<\/a> and conservative Justice Scalia. Both of them confirmed to the Supreme Court by an almost unanimous Senate vote.<\/p>\n<p>Some would say what has changed is the caliber of leaders in office now. <strong>Narcissist<\/strong> is a word used frequently in mainstream media.<strong><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I wrote earlier this week on <a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=20075\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">narcissistic bosses and how to thrive under such leadership<\/a>. We may not have chosen our boss, whether he or she is over a company or country, but we can determine to do what we can to help&#8230;not harm.<\/p>\n<p>Do you get weary of the contentious nature of our press? How about the behavior of our elected officials, on both sides? Maybe a lifetime in the political arena (whether in public or private sector positions) brings the cynic out of everyone. Maybe the goal of doing whatever possible good we can breaks down if our boss is just too difficult or just too not like us.<\/p>\n<p>The more I read on narcissistic bosses, the more I find that many who rise to the top have some of those traits. It&#8217;s what helped them get there. We can raise our backs to that and make as much noise as we can to get rid of that person or disrupt every process or decision.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-Power-and-control-Narcissists-Wikipedia.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-20182\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-Power-and-control-Narcissists-Wikipedia.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"480\" height=\"465\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-Power-and-control-Narcissists-Wikipedia.jpg 480w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-Power-and-control-Narcissists-Wikipedia-300x291.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 480px) 100vw, 480px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Abusive_power_and_control\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Wikipedia<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Or we can seek out what is wisdom in handling a narcissistic boss&#8230; for our own sakes, the sake of the company (or country), and even for his. It is one thing to feel helpless and a whole other thing to escalate a situation and add to the damage, whatever it is.<\/p>\n<p>Author and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bakadesuyo.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">blogger<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theladders.com\/author\/eric-barker\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Eric Barker<\/a> has written a Wall Street Journal best-seller entitled <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0062416049?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=debmillswrite-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;linkCode=xm2&amp;creativeASIN=0062416049\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em><span class=\"a-list-item\"><span class=\"a-declarative\" data-action=\"fbt-checkbox-click\" data-fbt-checkbox-click=\"{&quot;itemNum&quot;:&quot;1&quot;,&quot;offerListingID&quot;:&quot;tW3%2FYfNNKQPr8Cycuh4sK1UAsWRDk%2FUJjKL%2BAm0h%2BcApfOjPCNpsAOkLafLP6gDzx9TNxLNP3W9z0dSoypseAuY1mnCxuewaRKe0uHUfOLqPcxWYW2i8Og%3D%3D&quot;,&quot;asin&quot;:&quot;0062416049&quot;}\"><span class=\"a-label a-checkbox-label\">Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/em><\/a>. I haven&#8217;t read the book yet but his <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theladders.com\/career-advice\/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-5-secrets-backed-by-research\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">article<\/a> is intriguing.<\/p>\n<p>In this article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theladders.com\/career-advice\/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-5-secrets-backed-by-research\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>5 Scientific Secrets to Handling a Narcissist<\/em><\/a>, he gives some excellent counsel on what to do. Some of his advice may be hard to stomach&#8230;but stirring up a narcissist with negative, blaming banter will not get anyone where they say they hope to go.<\/p>\n<p>Here are Barker&#8217;s 5 bits of excellent advice:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>If at all possible, just steer clear of him. &#8211;\u00a0<\/strong>Do your job. Do it well.<\/li>\n<li><strong>If he&#8217;s your boss, kiss up or shut up.<\/strong> &#8211; A narcissist doesn&#8217;t want to hear your take on things, especially if it is against his take. Until you decide to leave your organization, do your best to just get along. He is much better at deflecting and retaliating than you probably are at exposing his faults or unfitness for the job.<\/li>\n<li><strong>\u00a0Know what you want and get payment up front. <\/strong>This relates to folks who have something (information, relationships, influence) the narcissist wants but doesn&#8217;t yet have. I can&#8217;t even think of an example&#8230;can you offer one?<br \/>\n<em>&#8220;Now I\u2019ve been very negative toward narcissists (understandably) but they\u00a0can be worked with and can even be good employees. Yes, really.<\/em><em>Why? Because they want something. They really need\u00a0to look good. And if you can align your desires\u00a0with their desires, you may\u00a0find yourself with an unstoppable achievement machine&#8230;They get what they want when they do what you want.&#8221; &#8211; <\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.theladders.com\/career-advice\/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-5-secrets-backed-by-research\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Eric Barker<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>If you have a raging narcissist within hearing and one who lets you close, ask some of equivalent of: &#8220;What would people think?&#8221; <\/strong>Let them answer the questions. <em>&#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.bakadesuyo.com\/2010\/03\/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emphasize community and use disappointment<\/a>, rather than anger, to keep them in line.\u00a0They want to look good. So <strong>help them look good by helping them do good<\/strong>.&#8221;<\/em><\/li>\n<li><strong>Be <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Dexter_(TV_series)\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Dexter<\/a>.<\/strong> Dexter was the focal character of a TV show of the same name. He was a forensics technician working murder cases. He became a serial killer of serial killers. Whew! I never watched the show but know of its cultish popularity. The thing is, all of us\u00a0 can become narcissistic. Especially in cultures where narcissists rise to power<em>. <\/em>If we can confront the narcissism in ourselves then we can fight it by nurturing empathy &#8211; refusing to give into the impulse to self-elevate and direct that impulse to empower others. Something to think about.<em><br \/>\n<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.theladders.com\/career-advice\/how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-5-secrets-backed-by-research\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>5 Scientific Secrets to Handling a Narcissist<\/em> &#8211; Eric Barker<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/understanding-narcissism\/201710\/how-de-escalate-fight-narcissist\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>How to De-Escalate a Fight with a Narcissist<\/em> &#8211; Elinor Greenberg, PhD<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/tanyatarr\/2017\/09\/05\/here-are-five-negotiation-tactics-to-use-with-a-narcissistic-boss\/#4e1b8afd1c97\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Dealing with a Narcissist? &#8211; Try These 5 Negotiation Tactics<\/em> &#8211; Tanya Tarr<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodreads.com\/work\/quotes\/52389107-barking-up-the-wrong-tree-the-surprising-science-behind-why-everything\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Barking Up the Wrong Tree<\/em> Quotes &#8211; GoodReads<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bakadesuyo.com\/2013\/01\/interview-negotiation-secrets-learn-top-fbi-hostage-negotiator\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Hostage Negotiation: the Top FBI Hostage Negotiator Teaches You the 5 Secrets to Getting What You Want<\/em> &#8211; Eric Barker<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bakadesuyo.com\/2018\/09\/emotionally-intelligent-kids\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>This Is How to Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids: 5 Secrets From Research &#8211; <\/em>Eric Barker<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>5) Visual Aids<\/strong> &#8211; I am a visual learner. By that, information intake comes easier with images. I used to think because of being a voracious note taker that auditory learning was my preference. No, it was that innately, writing the notes was salvation for me because they gave me visual cues to master the auditory information taken in&#8230;later. Looking at my notes.<\/p>\n<p>This week, I began a study of Genesis through <a href=\"https:\/\/www.communitybiblestudy.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Community Bible Study<\/a>. The study opened with a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=GQI72THyO5I\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">YouTube visual<\/a> that &#8220;storied&#8221; the beginning journey of the God and humankind. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Genesis+1-11&amp;version=ESV\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Genesis 1-11<\/a> in less than 8 minutes, being <em>drawn<\/em> as we watched. So good.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Book of Genesis Summary: A Complete Animated Overview (Part 1)\" width=\"474\" height=\"267\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GQI72THyO5I?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>A big part of why children&#8217;s books are so attractive for a visual learner is the rich illustrations that accompany the story. One of my favorite artists is <a href=\"https:\/\/marjoleinbastin.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Marjolein Bastin<\/a>. She paints the world around us with all its beauty, tiny detail, and true-to-life (im)perfections.<\/p>\n<p>You might enjoy this <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thinkmakeshareblog.com\/why-i-create-marjolein-bastin\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">short article and stunning video<\/a> of hers where she describes <em>&#8220;Why I Create&#8221;.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>___________________________________________________________________________<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s this week&#8217;s faves. How about you? please share some of yours with all of us through the Comments.<\/p>\n<p>Be safe out there. Be kind to those you love and those you don&#8217;t yet&#8230; you never know what could change.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bonuses:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Pull out that wedding dress<\/strong> &#8211; if it still fits, why not wear it from time to time?&#8230;for your pleasure and those who loved seeing you in it that one other time.<a href=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-Hanging-out-in-her-wedding-dress-Brittney-Kluse-Facebook.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-20144\" src=\"http:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-Hanging-out-in-her-wedding-dress-Brittney-Kluse-Facebook.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"960\" srcset=\"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-Hanging-out-in-her-wedding-dress-Brittney-Kluse-Facebook.jpg 640w, https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Blog-Hanging-out-in-her-wedding-dress-Brittney-Kluse-Facebook-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a>Photo Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/photo.php?fbid=10206061504988958&amp;set=a.1263506700072&amp;type=3&amp;theater\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Brittney Kluse, Facebook<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/meetthenativity.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Meet the Nativity<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Meet the Nativity 1: The Boyfriend\" width=\"474\" height=\"267\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Pj7COFpxFAc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thegospelcoalition.org\/article\/meet-nativity-episode-one\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Meet the Nativity and Find Your Family<\/em> &#8211; Glen Scrivener<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>American Idol Sweethearts<\/strong> &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/calebleemusic?lang=en\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Caleb Lee Hutchison<\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/maddiepoppe.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Maddie Poppe<\/a> fell in love while competing in the 16th season of the ABC music show <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/American_Idol_(season_16)\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">American Idol<\/a>. Maddie eventually went on to win with Caleb coming in second. Renditions of songs like Maddie&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=gVutHEKBzHs&amp;list=RDTjcG7LASVGs&amp;index=19\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Landslide<\/a> and Caleb&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=GDb2tLgVHkQ\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Don&#8217;t Close Your Eyes<\/em><\/a> took them straight to the finals and into fans&#8217; hearts. Here they are on the Live Tour singing together <em>You&#8217;ve Got a Friend<\/em>. So darling.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"American Idol Live Tour 2018 -  Caleb Lee Hutchinson &amp; Maddie Poppe - You&#039;ve Got A Friend\" width=\"474\" height=\"267\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/TjcG7LASVGs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As I write it&#8217;s raining&#8230; This Friday &#8211; lots of country music and YouTube videos&#8230;and a grateful heart. Oh&#8230;and just as I was about to publish, Nathan Mills&#8216; arrangement of John Paesano&#8216;s Spiderman theme (for the PS4 game of the same name) just got posted. 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