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Happy Weekend! Here are my favorite finds for this week:<\/p>\n

1) On Being Sober <\/strong>– Writer storyteller Bren\u00e9 Brown<\/a> posted this incredible piece this week entitled: What Being Sober Has Meant to Me<\/em><\/a>. I didn’t know she had had a drinking problem. Her story resonates with my own. Here’s a bit of her take on it:<\/p>\n

“At first I struggled to feel ‘drunk enough’ to belong at AA. The DUI-divorce-got-fired stories made me wonder if I was in the wrong place. As a rule-follower, I found a sponsor and asked her if I was in the right meetings. She diagnosed me with \u201ca Pupu platter of addictions\u201d\u2014 not too much of any one thing, but enough of each one to be concerned. Her advice was to quit drinking, quit smoking, quit emotional eating, and quit trying to control and manage my family\u2019s crises. Awesome. On it.” –\u00a0 Bren\u00e9 Brown<\/a>
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\"\"<\/a>Photo Credit: Bren\u00e9 Brown, Facebook<\/a><\/p>\n

My mom never drank alcohol. She grew up impoverished with a dad who was drunk more than not. She saw the destructive nature of addiction and steered clear. I had a short season of social drinking in my 20s. It ended at a party when, after finishing the one glass of wine I had intended to drink, my best friend’s husband appeared immediately with another. He was all smiles, and said, “And here I thought you were a goodie two-shoes<\/em> about drinking.” A very old expression but his remark burned into my soul. My whole character seemed defined by my stance on alcohol!!<\/p>\n

Recently I was having dinner with a friend in her 20s who had decided to stop drinking. Her reason was she found that when she drank she pretty quickly moved into this personality and looseness<\/em> (for lack of a better word) that were not who she was normally. She decided she much preferred to just be herself, and not drinking was the solution for her. I resonated with her on that (everyone has to determine if this is something to consider for themselves ).<\/p>\n

Read Brown’s article<\/a> – it is NOT shaming but rather encouraging and empowering. One last quote from her for today:<\/p>\n

“Over the past two decades, food and work have emerged as my real drugs of choice. Like most addiction, they\u2019re fueled by shame and the \u201cnot enough\u201d gremlins. They\u2019re also tricky addictions because I\u2019m good at abstaining but not so good at moderation. Food and work don\u2019t lend themselves to abstinence…If I stay in fit spiritual condition \u2014 boundaries, vulnerability, honesty, authenticity, connection to God, healthy food, exercise, and sleep \u2014 I won\u2019t be running toward or away from cold beer or warm carbs.<\/strong>” – Bren\u00e9 Brown<\/a>
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What Being Sober Has Meant to Me<\/em><\/a> – Bren\u00e9 Brown<\/a><\/p>\n

Mary Karr Names Names<\/em> – Nina Puro<\/a><\/p>\n

Everybody Knows: 10 Lessons from 10 Years of Sobriety Without AA<\/em> – Mishka Shubaly<\/a><\/p>\n

2) A State in Mourning<\/strong>– [This demanded a moment of recognition even though it certainly isn’t a usual favorite find for me. it is for us to grieve.] Flags are at half-mast around our state this week because of three separate incidents where a total of 17 people died, including a 9 y\/o girl. Our local newspaper, the Richmond Times-Dispatch<\/a> gave the details of a random shooting<\/a>, a workplace shooting<\/a> and a church van accident<\/a>. A sad week as we, in Virginia, mourned their loss.\"\"<\/a>\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

3) Favorite Podcast <\/strong>– On a lighter note, my friend and podcaster Kevin Prewett<\/a>, delivers every single week. Not just entertainment but great counsel on work and life through his Rising Tide Startups<\/a> podcast.<\/p>\n

Kevin’s focus is to help those of us who are dreaming of or actually launching a startup of some sort. His guests come from a wide range of disciplines, from musicians to project managers to business coaches. Through the podcast, each tells her story and gives insight to those on a similar path. Kevin also brings mini-courses to his listeners. His guests present specialized content in a 5-minute segment, like we would have to pay for in another setting.<\/p>\n

I have gained so much from his various guests, and starting up a business isn’t on my radar. Just learning volumes from these folks’ life and business experience.<\/p>\n

An example of one of his guests is website builder Chris Parker<\/a>, founder of What Is My IP Address?<\/em><\/a> Here<\/a> is the podcast and transcript of his interview. So fascinating.<\/p>\n

Rising Tide Startups<\/a><\/p>\n

Rising Tide Startups – YouTube Channel<\/a><\/p>\n

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4) National Cancer Survivors Day – <\/strong>The first Sunday of June each year is National Cancer Survivors Day<\/a>. It gives us the opportunity to celebrate those who survive their cancer experience (diagnosis, treatment, and recovery).<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>Photo Credit: National Cancer Survivors Day, Facebook<\/a><\/p>\n

This week marks 3 years since my diagnosis with Stage 1 lung cancer. That was a shocker! I’m so thankful to have been diagnosed so early in the course of the disease…and to be well today.<\/p>\n

We all have loved ones we lost to cancer and we want to honor them always. This commemoration of cancer survivors is also a right thing to do.<\/p>\n

National Cancer Survivors Day also calls for celebrating all those who helped us come out the other side of cancer. Our family and friends, colleagues, and the medical personnel involved with our care.<\/p>\n

A friend and fellow writer, Ann Lovell, has survived cancer twice. Her dad, Bob Anderson, wrote a beautiful poem about these “angels of mercy”:<\/p>\n

Angels of mercy<\/strong>
\nTheir faces aglow<\/strong>
\nMay visit among us<\/strong>
\nWe can\u2019t really know<\/strong><\/p>\n

But we know divine purpose<\/strong>
\nAnd power unfold<\/strong>
\nWith struggle reflected<\/strong>
\nThrough luminous souls.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ann posted: “I am grateful that we never walk alone \u2014 that God\u2019s Spirit always carries us, sustains us, and protects us; that God places people in our lives to be the hands and feet of Jesus just when we need Him most….<\/span>Thank you to the many \u201cangels of mercy\u201d who walked alongside us then and now. I am grateful.” – Ann Lovell<\/a><\/p>\n

Me, too.<\/p>\n

5) A Call to Prayer\u00a0<\/strong>– Finally, I am struck by the many calls to prayer we hear in life. A sick little boy, a friend in a troubled marriage, the grief of losing a beloved grandmother, the need for a new job, etc. etc.<\/p>\n

Many of the world’s religions have a call to prayer as part of their religious practices.<\/p>\n

Jesus counseled his disciples to “watch and pray” (Matthew 26:41<\/a>)<\/p>\n

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I am so thankful that God calls us to prayer. Not because He doesn’t know already what we desperately need, but because He wants us to bring our needs to Him…He hears, He sees, and He will draw near to us as we draw near to Him.<\/p>\n

“Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to what we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who has been tempted in every way as we are, yet without sin.\u00a0Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”<\/strong><\/em> – Hebrews 4:14-16<\/a>
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That’s it for me this week. How about you? Any favorite finds? Please share in the Comments. Hope you get to rest…and be blessed.<\/p>\n

Bonuses:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Indicators of Human Trafficking<\/a><\/p>\n

https:\/\/unmistakablecreative.com\/on-the-time-we-have-left-with-the-people-who-matter-most-to-us\/<\/p>\n

Why Simplifying May Protect Our Children\u2019s Mental Health<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n