{"id":32679,"date":"2024-02-27T07:58:45","date_gmt":"2024-02-27T12:58:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=32679"},"modified":"2024-02-27T16:19:28","modified_gmt":"2024-02-27T21:19:28","slug":"monday-morning-moment-a-principled-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/debmillswriter.com\/?p=32679","title":{"rendered":"Monday Morning Moment – a Principled Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Photo Credit: Boltgroup<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Recently a conversation with a young friend drew me to the idea of “a principled life”. She recalled a comment a friend of hers made about this friend’s life, something along the lines of how remarkably principled her life was. As if that was an odd thing. Unusual. Commendable but on an altogether different plane.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We were both surprised at this. Doesn’t reaching adulthood come with the establishing of certain principles for living? Those attitudes and actions that define us as people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In our family, we often have conversations around the dinner table about how we engage with people, especially those who are challenging, demanding, and even uncaring. It makes sense, at some level, to distance ourselves from such folks, put walls between us and them, and not be drawn into their neediness or manipulation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The question for me, however, in such situations, is “what kind of person do I want to be?” Is another’s behavior going to change the way I want to show up in relationships? Is another’s character going to move me to change my own?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thus the thinking about a principled life<\/em>. What does that look like for each of us? What does that look like to our children and grandchildren?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, we derive our principles from varied sources. Some from our parents. Some from teachers or mentors. Some from classical literature, history, or sacred texts. Some of our principles (whether we consciously acknowledge it or not) may even come from movie quotes and characters. Below you will see some examples of principles. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ex-heroin addict and neuroscientist Brian Pennie PhD <\/a>writes and speaks regularly on this topic:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Principles are fundamental truths that are universal in nature.”<\/em> – Brian Pennie<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Values are beliefs, attitudes and standards of behaviour about what\u2019s important in life. They are also subjective and may change over time.” – Brian Pennie<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Unlike values which are subjective, principles are fundamental truths that are permanent, unchanging, and universal in nature.”<\/em> – Brian Pennie<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

[Values and principles can often be seen used interchangeably, as in the graphic below.]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens – Sean Covey – PowerPoint Presentation<\/em> – Slideshare<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

A principled life is one that demonstrates a foundation and follow-through of certain truths consistent with how a person thinks and behaves – living life with intention not in reaction.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Principles are action-oriented (see below as an example).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Principles form a life compass. Brian Pennie writes<\/a>:
“Through my own suffering and aimless behavior [during those days as a young drug addict], I developed a technique based on values and principles. I call it my life compass<\/strong>, and use it whenever I feel anxious, overwhelmed, or frustrated; or any negative state for that matter. In other words, I use it when I\u2019m not aligned with my values.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The aim is to develop a set of principles that will guide your actions when life gets tough. Note that values direct you towards what\u2019s important in life, while principles are actionable and always result in outcomes.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Below is a list of my own values, and several of the principles I\u2019ve developed to keep me on the path.”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Photo Credit: Thrive Global, Brian Pennie<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

For me, a principled life aligns with the life of Jesus. Albeit imperfectly, given my human tendency to serve self. The Apostle Paul writes<\/a> in his letter to the Roman church about “the marks of a Christian life”:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“<\/sup>Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, \u201cVengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.\u201d <\/sup>To the contrary, \u201cif your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.\u201d Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” <\/em>– Romans 12:9-21<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is a principled life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

[What are your thoughts as to the guiding principles of your life? What are you modeling for your family, friends, colleagues – just by showing up? What do people count on you for? What are you intentionally teaching to your children\/grandchildren? Would love to hear about these in the Comments section. Thanks for stopping by.]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Live by Life Principles That Matter<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

30 Life Principles <\/em>– Dr. Charles F. Stanley<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

10 Principles of Life<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seven Basic Principles That Govern our Personal Lives and Relationships<\/em> – Vatican in Exile<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Find Meaning and Direction in Life<\/em> – Brian Pennie<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

YouTube Video – My talk from Pendulum 2024: How to Find Your True North – A Guidance System for Life<\/em> – Brian Pennie Ph.D.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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