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Happy Friday! I have guests visiting from out of country so writing time has taken a back seat to sweet times with friends. Still, what a week this has been in discovery. I chose just five favorites but would love to hear (in Comments below) what some of your faves of this week are. Learning is one of my favorite pastimes.<\/p>\n

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  1. On Foster Care\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 – It’s dangerous for me to start with such a topic because many will click out of this blog just on reading the title (“Not me”; “Not interested”). Foster care is not for everyone, but it has to be for some of us. What if we worked together to provide safe and loving homes for every child in crisis? Chris Campbell and Team of 111Tulsa<\/a>, in Tulsa, Oklahoma, started just such an initiative. I read\u00a0a bit of the story in his wife’s blog\u00a0 A Turning Point<\/a>\u00a0then I wrote about foster care<\/a>. We can care for these children together.\"Blog<\/a>Photo Credit: AshleyAnnPhotography.com<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    2.\u00a0 On Losing Control<\/strong> – This week, a blog by Jenilee Goodwin entitled The End of Me<\/a> popped up in my inbox on a busy day. It might have gone unread except for that title. My Mom, my life-long best friend and the head cheerleader of Team Me, died over a decade ago. That was a grace-covered jolt to my sense of life and its dependability. God helped me through that long season of grief because He had already brought me through an “end of me” experience very similar to the one Jenilee describes in her blog. Crossing cultures and learning languages and the raw not-doing-anything-well are huge opportunities to see how tenuous our “control” is. God is dependable; our circumstances are not. Her piece was beautiful and deeply personal. Wherever you are in life, you will gain much by reading her story.\"Blog<\/a><\/p>\n

    3. On Best Bakeries<\/strong> – When Business Insider does an photo-splashed article on The Best Bakery in Every State<\/a>, I took the time to read it. Or should I say “savor it” – without endangering my health. Finding that the “best bakery” in Virginia to be Blackbird Bakery in Bristol (as far across the state from us as could be found), I will drop my own “Best Bakery” in here. For doughnuts anyway, that bakery is the Westhampton Pastry Shop.\u00a0<\/a>\u00a0Ridiculously yummy. What’s your favorite?<\/p>\n

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    Photo Credit: Westhampton Pastry Shop, yelp.com<\/a><\/p>\n

    4) On Pornography – <\/strong>A very serious topic – I placed it on purpose under “best bakeries” because there are all kinds of addictions. The scary difference is the fact that some addictions have outward presentations (like food, drug, and alcohol addictions). Not pornography. Addiction to pornography can do its damage in the quiet and isolation of one’s personal space in front of a screen (phone, tablet, computer). Yet, its damage reaches into relationships, career, and even our own anatomy and physiology. This Is Your Brain on Porn<\/a>\u00a0probably won’t deter someone addicted to pornography, but it could sound a warning that what you think is “not hurting anyone” really is…those you love…and you.\"Blog<\/a>Photo Credit: Ideapod, Churchm.ag<\/a><\/p>\n

    5) On Efficiency<\/strong> – If you got this far, you are in for a huge treat. This week, as I watch friends go through a company downsizing, the subject came up of efficiency and effectiveness. Does one necessarily lead to the other? Are they the same? In learning more about that, I came across this happy little article by Eric Gilbertson on the push for efficiency in our colleges and universities – The Pursuit of Efficiency and the Pursuit of Folly<\/a>. Sweet article. Then the book Team of Teams<\/a> <\/em>which my husband recently read (devoured really)\u00a0came to mind. General McChrystal writes brilliantly about adaptability, not efficiency, as our greatest need in the workplace of the 21st century. Work matters…and the people doing the work matter. Get this book…your appetite will be whetted by the articles linked below.\"Blog<\/a><\/p>\n

    Team of Teams<\/em> by General Stanley McChrystal<\/a><\/p>\n

    Efficiency in Business Isn’t Key Says Retired General<\/a><\/p>\n

    Gen. Stanley McChrystal: Adapt to win in the 21st Century<\/a><\/p>\n

    Work Smart – Let General Stanley McChrystal Explain Why Adaptability trumps Hierarchy – Forget everything you ever knew about your company’s org chart\u2014and that’s an order.<\/a><\/p>\n

    The Tim Ferriss Experiment – General Stan McChrystal on Eating One Meal Per Day, Special Ops, and Mental Toughness<\/a><\/p>\n

    Your Brain On Porn<\/a><\/p>\n

    Love Your Neighbor \u2013 Foster Parenting & Adoption \u2013 Every Child in a Safe and Loving Home – www.debmillswriter.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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