1) Beyond the Guitar – It’s been awhile since I’ve posted Friday Faves, but rest assured #1 of my weekly round-down hasn’t changed. Nathan at Beyond the Guitar continues to make beautiful music. He also teaches through his arranging academy, practice club, etc.
YouTube Video – This fingerstyle Riff is What Sunshine Sounds Like – Beyond the Guitar
Below you’ll find a couple of his most recent videos as he showcases two different guitars. Beautiful!
His short videos (with film and video game clips attached) are so much fun and emotionally satisfying (why go to TikTok when you can just hang on his channel? Just scroll down his YouTube channel to Shorts).
Something about Nathan you might not know if you don’t follow him on Instagram is that he has also become a personal trainer in the field of health/fitness, mental/spiritual disciplines, and all the stuff of being a guy out there (family, work, habits, and disciplines). For his music, you know where to go. For this sort of inspiration, head over to his Instagram account.
2) Walking Her Home – This has been a super sentimental week for me. Some health issues, family stuff, and friends going through hard times. When I came across the UNC Clef Hangers video (seen many times before), it has hung in the air for me.
The song Walking Her Home recounts the story of a 60-year relationship. From first date until the elderly wife was dying. Whew! So beautiful.
Dave and I have our 40th wedding anniversary later this year, and this sweet lyric brings back such memories of our own life together. All the beautiful not dimmed by the hard. In fact, only made more beautiful by staying and waiting out (praying out) the hard together. Not everyone gets that opportunity, sadly. Just let me share this song…may it encourage you about your own relationships whatever they are.
Taking that song and its life message further, we all have the opportunity to truly see each other…care for each other…and walk each other home.
Walking Each Other Home – Making a Difference in a Beautiful Way – Ramona McKean – don’t miss this.
3) Post-traumatic Growth – We have all heard much spoken and written about post-traumatic stress (PTSD). Just in recent months have I heard the concept of post-traumatic growth. An internet search yields much on this topic. Post-traumatic growth is defined as “the experience of positive change that occurs as a result of the struggle with highly challenging life crises”.
This sort of growth can happen when we recognize that we don’t have to be forever victimized by the trauma we’ve experienced, as children or adults. There is a way forward.
I’m only mentioning it briefly here, but if you have experienced this sort of growth post-trauma, and you feel comfortable to talk about it, please use the Comments section to share some of what happened.
What Are the 5 Stages of Post-Traumatic Growth? How to Get Started? – Kirti Bhati
The Promise of Post-Traumatic Growth – Part 2 – Echo Training
The Complicated Truth About Post-Traumatic Growth – David Robson
Sometimes what stands in opposition to our growth is the person or persons unwilling to let go of the past. Maybe our PTSD relates to being the victim of trauma. Other times, however, we struggle to get out of the past because of harm we ourselves have caused. Even when we have owned our part, asked forgiveness, made whatever restitution we could…the past won’t always go away.
Writer/speaker Ashley Alford writes about this poignantly. Below you’ll find a bit of her take on it:
Kicking ash is what they’re doing.
Standing in the middle of the ashy remainder of what you once did.
The soot of who you once were.
The smoke of who you used to be.
They’re standing in the middle of an old story…one they don’t like to let go of.
One that still tries to burn with reminders of the licking flames of your shame.
They kick the mess around you hoping to stir up the old accusations…
Hoping to reignite the sparks of something that God himself put out…
They can run the ashes of that fire through their fingers all they want…
But they’ll never know the pain it took for you to heal from those burns.
They’ll never know the raw ache of fresh wounds straight from hell.
Not like Jesus does.
They weren’t there when He bandaged you at that altar.
They weren’t there when he breathed life back into you again on that closet floor.
So let them kick ash and stir up the soot of that life and lie you used to host.
And remember when they mock you…They’re mocking the Holy Ghost.
Because they can tell tales of the fire that almost consumed you and they can backstab and stare…
But it would do them good to remember that just like Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego…
You weren’t alone in there.
“Kicking Ash Is What They’re Doing” – Honestly, Ashley – Facebook
4) Breaking Out of Negative Thinking – I first wrote about negative thinking five years ago (that blog linked below). Since then we have come through COVID 2020, great racial unrest and social upheaval, contentious election cycles, ongoing wars, and a downturn in our economy. Lots to think negatively about with good reason, but if we’re not careful we will begin gearing our thinking in that direction to the detriment of our mental and relational health.
Monday Morning Moment – Rewiring Your Brain Toward Thinking in the Positive – Deb Mills
The team at Daily Health Post focused on complaining as a culprit that can actually cause our brains to default to anxiety and depression. From experience, I know this is true. Check out the article below:
How Complaining Physically Rewires Your Brain to Be Anxious and Depressed
Why Your Brain is Wired for Pessimism—and What You Can Do to Fix It – Clay Skipper
Before leaving this topic, I want to point to the article below which champions negative emotions as a sometime benefit. We learn from regrets, and sadness is telling us something about what matters to us. Negative emotions have value, but it’s the weight we allow them and the headspace they will consume that we must question and resist.
Don’t Insist on Being Positive—Allowing Negative Emotions Has Much to Teach Us – Whitney Goodman
5) Spring – ‘Nuff said really. Days getting longer and warmer. Flowers. Short sleeves. Strawberries. Fishing.
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That’s my 5 faves for this week. Gleaned from a much longer list of finds that I didn’t write about over the last several weeks (including my beloved “Best of” Christmas Ad videos). Thanks for stopping by. Talk to us in the Comments if you have the time. Blessings always.
Bonuses:
6 Ways to Tap Into Nostalgia – And What You Should – Mental Health Benefits
Can’t Stop the Feeling – still love this song and its covers (especially the one HomeFree does):
