It’s Friday! Here are my five favorite finds this week…
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Our children knew that telling the truth was a high value for us. They knew it because lying had the strongest consequence of any wrong doing. I still couldn’t come up with a motto we used for that.
So…as much as I love words and tried to use words to guide our children growing up, I’m at a loss for our family mottos. Will encourage them to pursue mottos for their own families.
Any suggestions?
Family Mottos – Cassie Damewood
Ultimate Guide to Creating Family Mottos That Inspire – Amy of Organized Mom
2) God of War – One of the perks of being a patron of Beyond the Guitar is to be privy to his creative process through livestreams of his arranging. I know very little about how one can take a grand orchestral piece and recast it for a single classical guitar – retaining its power and beauty. What I do know I learned from Nathan, as he does it time and time again. This week’s video is his arrangement of themes from the God of War video game – God of War 4 Meets Classical Guitar – click and enjoy.
3) Adam Grant Podcasts – Organizational psychologist Adam Grant has a podcast now. Like all his work, it is brilliant. Well-researched, practical, fascinating. This week, I listened again to Work Life: The Problem with All-Stars where he asks the question “How do you make your team better when you’re not the biggest star?”
Photo Credit: TEDAdd Adam’s podcast to your list. His book Give and Take continues to be one of my favorites and go-to wisdom texts.
4) John Newton & Friends on Controversy – John Newton was an 18th century English clergyman who had a dark past (as a slave ship captain and even experiencing slavery himself). He wrote the hymn Amazing Grace. He understood controversy too well.Photo Credit: Flickr
Below are quotes from a longer letter Newton wrote to a minister who had sought him out for advice. This man was preparing to write a scathing article addressing the orthodoxy of another minister.
“I would have you more than a conqueror, and to triumph, not only over your adversary, but over yourself.”
“Consider your opponent: As to your opponent, I wish that before you set pen to paper against him, and during the whole time you are preparing your answer, you may commend him by earnest prayer to the Lord’s teaching and blessing.”
“Consider the public: There is a principle of self, which disposes us to despise those who differ from us; and we are often under its influence, when we think we are only showing a becoming zeal in the cause of God….Whatever it be that makes us trust in ourselves that we are comparatively wise or good, so as to treat those with contempt who do not subscribe to our doctrines, or follow our party, is a proof and fruit of a self-righteous spirit…Controversies, for the most part, are so managed as to indulge rather than to repress his wrong disposition; and therefore, generally speaking, they are productive of little good. They provoke those whom they should convince, and puff up those whom they should edify. I hope your performance will savor of a spirit of true humility, and be a means of promoting it in others.”
“Consider yourself: [Writers of controversy] either grow in a sense of their own importance, or imbibe an angry, contentious spirit, or they insensibly withdraw their attention from those things which are the food and immediate support of the life of faith, and spend their time and strength upon matters which are at most but of a secondary value…What will it profit a man if he gains his cause and silences his adversary, if at the same time he loses that humble, tender frame of spirit in which the Lord delights, and to which the promise of his presence is made? …if you are not continually looking to the Lord to keep you, it may become your own cause, and awaken in you those tempers which are inconsistent with true peace of mind, and will surely obstruct communion with God.” – John Newton
There is something unwholesome in us that loves controversy – the exposing of another’s behavior or character different from ours. I’m not saying that “truth coming out” is not a good thing…it is… However, we must guard against what we do with that. We can stir up controversy, dance all around it, and the world remain unchanged [except for being more divided]. Unimproved. Just a lot of hurtful talk…and then nothing. We can do better…we can be better.
Thoughts?
John Newton on Controversy – Nathan Bingham
Controversy (a Collection of Articles): TableTalk – May 2012
The Wrath of God Poured Out; the Humiliation of the Southern Baptist Convention – Albert Mohler
5) Old Books – This past weekend, after several days of heavy rains, our basement took on water. In our storage room, cardboard boxes, filled with treasures from Mom’s estate, were water-damaged and had to be discarded. That didn’t pose a problem to the many pieces of glass (decorative and tableware) Mom had given to each of us.
I peeled off wet cardboard and newspaper, washed them, and will either repack, use, or give away.
The old books packed not well enough were another story.
It made my heart sad…and then glad with memories still of those dear old books. Not saying that I had memories of them…but the sweet memories of the people who held onto them. My Mom and her four brothers (all gone now) grew up in the Great Depression. At least three of them (Mom and her two older brothers) loved to read. I know this because I watched Mom, the hardest worker I ever knew, take breaks not to watch TV, or nap…but to read. My uncles left books behind in our home, their names written inside on the title pages. The dear old book above is the 4th edition of an 1855 publication of Bartlett’s Familiar Quotations. I will keep it still, though terribly damaged from age and this past week’s rains. Why? Inside are bits of paper that my Uncle George kept place with. Bits of paper he wrote quotes on and notes to himself. This old book brings him near to me…this old World War II Navy veteran who married but never had children, this elegant man who I idolized, this kind man who loved his little sister…my mama.
[So Kids…when it’s time, and you find this book, just throw it out. It gave me comfort for a season.]
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These were my favorite finds this week. How about you? Any discoveries you would be willing to share? Just respond in Comments below.
This is Memorial Day weekend in the US. Rain is predicted here so not sure if we will grill or not. Hopefully we’ll see the kids and grandkids…we will keep putting our basement back together…and we will remember the great sacrifices of those in our military – living and dead. Thank you for your service.Photo Credit: Military
Bonuses:
Remembering Rebecca Tyree – we lost a dear person in Richmond this week.
Summer Reading: A Grade-by-Grade Recommended Reading List for Kids – Justin Taylor
7 Things Kids Need to Do For Themselves Before They Turn 13 – Mary Sauer
3 Ways to Help Kids Connect Obedience With Joy – Sara Wallace
Photo Credit: Julie Nabors Kenney, Facebook, with permission
“There is a principle of self, which disposes us to despise those who differ from us…”
This hit me coming right after our conversation from the morning about different parenting styles – and that word despise, ouch. But it is so easy for us and what a description. Also what you said about the unwholesome in us that likes to stir up controversy. Very convicting in a good way.
I hate so much that you guys had to deal with the rainy mess but am glad it’s giving you an opportunity to go through things.
Don’t remember specific family mottos but do feel like you guys instilled so many values and principles in us in the way you raised us that I am thankful for and am hoping I can manage the same with my littles. And thankful to have you close for an easy reference. ?
Thanks for your thoughts and comments, Christie. I was so taken by Newton’s words…convicting for me as well. Going through things continues. Also, it is a joy for us to be close by you guys. I would have never dreamed such an opportunity would be ours and don’t ever want to cling too tightly to it…but will embrace it for the now. Love you.